and the Work Room to hash things out in is http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/1030984.html
An offhand comment was made, that stuck in my brain and got me thinking about how life has unfolded for me. It was a lighthearted reference to how I have "troubled teeth". Which, I do.
I messed them up.
Maybe this will be useful to someone.
You know those important life lessons you learn from your parents? Or if you don't have that luxury, you pick them up along the way?
Most of those lessons are things I never ended up getting. It's not a "I just didn't pay attention". I just never got how important they were. One of those was proper care of your teeth.
I can remember 1 trip to the dentist after the age of 5 or so. I'll be honest, I'm not sure if my Mom didn't feel like doing it or if my Step Dad was preventing her - or if maybe they just figured if I said I didn't want to go (because what kid really wants to go to the dentist?) then they wouldn't make me.
There was no "remember to brush" or anything else. I'm not saying I didn't do it. But I didn't do it as much as I should have...
During my teens to early 20s I developed a bad habit... the way some kids take to drugs, alcohol and cigarettes, I took to soda. I was definitely an addict - with none of the self-care that could have at least held it a little at bay.
Add to this the "fun fact" of something else I never learned how to do - swallow pills. So I chew them. Yes, you read that correctly. I never figured out the trick - or the tricks I tried didn't work. I've gotten better, but it's still something I struggle with.
None of these things are good for your teeth, and all of them, past a certain age, are my own fault. My Mom always gets annoyed when I say I "raised myself" but there is a lot of truth in that, and I didn't do a great job of it.
So now I suffer for it, and try to undo the damage I caused that has set in motion this game of dominos where I try to stay one step ahead. Honestly, they aren't as bad as they *could have* been. I stopped drinking soda altogether and my self care has been fairly high for awhile now. But the damage was done, and the price is being paid.
So I guess the lesson is - take care of yourselves. Even if it seems "too late" to make a difference, it can still make things a little better. That, and there is a price to actions, or inactions. Sometimes they come years later, but the pain, it catches up to you.