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Green Room - Week 20 - Day 6

The poll is up: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/1021912.html which means you should be getting over there to check out the entries.

What else do you have to do, other than do that and live tweet the Comey hearing*.

(*Note, that only applies to one of our voters. He just likes to tweet things, and is usually up late. Sometimes he signs things too!)

I'm not sure what our other voters will be up to tomorrow. But hopefully it involves reading some Idol entries!

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I woke up late this morning and spent the rest of the day feeling like I was making up for that lost time. Which is why the Green Room is going up a little early for Thursday. Maybe tomorrow I will feel like I'm ahead of everything!

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I'm currently reading Aziz Ansari's Modern Romance, which is about the new landscape of finding someone, and the changes and challenges that have come with the technology. It's weird to think about, much less see someone take apart, how dating has changed. Especially since I was dating just before the time he was doing his research. I already felt really behind the curve. Had I been single much longer, I would have probably slipped even further behind "how people meet".

But it is interesting to see how "where you meet someone" has changed from literally who you might run into in the same buildings you frequent, to anywhere in the world!

How has that changed YOUR life? Not just "dating" or how you look at romance, and possibilities... but in general. Actually, yeah, some of that "possibilities" as well. Because older people interviewed for the book thought that too many choices had the effect of impacting the ability to make a decision and stick to it, because there were just so many other things you *could* be doing, so many more people you *could* be meeting - that anything less than "perfect" is more likely to be brushed aside.

Of course, even with the vast array of human knowledge at our fingertips - how many people actually go out there and explore, learn new things and meet new people? How many just stick to the same familiar circles? (Which is fine to do, if those circles happen to be LJ Idol!! :D)

No real conclusions here - I'm continuing to read the book and just spitballing out thoughts from what I've read so far...

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messygorgeous
Jun. 8th, 2017 03:03 am (UTC)
Frist!!
messygorgeous
Jun. 8th, 2017 03:11 am (UTC)
I loved Modern Romance! Really well researched, but presented with humor. I listened to the book, and Ansari narrates too, so that was cool, to hear it in his voice.

It definitely is interesting, when he interviews the folks in the senior home to learn both how they met their mates and to discover how much simpler their desires were when it came to love.

I think he is right, that as we pursue romantic perfection, we are missing out on a lot of awesome potential mates. In my personal experience, it's one thing to discover someone who looks perfect on paper - or through an Internet dating algorithm - and an entirely different experience meeting that "perfect" person AND having that one essential spark that makes it all come together - chemistry!
ellakite
Jun. 8th, 2017 04:59 pm (UTC)
YOU'RE *DEAD* TO ME!!!

(Help yourself to the cookies. I hear the snickerdoodles are particularly good today.)
messygorgeous
Jun. 8th, 2017 05:31 pm (UTC)
SNICKERDOODLES!!! They are my favorite!!!
bewize
Jun. 8th, 2017 12:52 pm (UTC)
As for the global culture phenomenon, I have met some amazing people and had some life changing experiences, because of the internet. I've traveled the world. I've learned about other cultures. I've had my eyes opened - and opened some eyes.

As for romance, I would never intentionally seek out long distance. I am too motivated by hugs and cuddles and sappy stuff that you just have to be in person to manage. And, I know myself well enough to know that I need that often, or it just starts to feel restrictive.

Interesting post and I've heard a lot about that book. I'll have to check it out.
messygorgeous
Jun. 8th, 2017 05:03 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't do well with a long distance romance either. My husband and I lived just an hour from each other when we met but, with work schedules, really only saw each other on weekends for the first two years of our relationship.
That was TOUGH!
adoptedwriter
Jun. 8th, 2017 01:01 pm (UTC)
Sounds like an interesting read. I'm currently reading Hillbilly Elegy, a memoir by J.D. Vance. Great family dynamic story. And his struggle to break out of a unique circle.
messygorgeous
Jun. 8th, 2017 05:05 pm (UTC)
That's been on my list for a while. Living in North Georgia, we see so many people that come from the generational poor. Did you read Jeanette Walls The Glass Castle? I loved that memoir and someone told me that if I liked that, I'd enjoy Hillbilly Elegy as well.
adoptedwriter
Jun. 9th, 2017 08:39 pm (UTC)
I did. Loved Glass Cadtle! One of my faves!
murielle
Jun. 8th, 2017 03:52 pm (UTC)
Can you believe I am watching James Comey's testimony?

Romance? I simply wouldn't look online. Friendship, yes. Romance, no.
dmousey
Jun. 11th, 2017 02:08 am (UTC)
I met my second husband online- we lasted seven years together.
murielle
Jun. 11th, 2017 02:35 am (UTC)
See, it worked for you! And it works for lots of people, but for me no. Basically because I don't have much romance left in me. ;-)
tonithegreat
Jun. 8th, 2017 04:02 pm (UTC)
NPR has had some interesting stories lately about the power of the internet to either get you into or out of your own personal bubble of experience. This morning there was this fun one about an ap based on Facebook that's good at getting you out of the bubbles that Facebook tends toward putting people in.

Me, I used to love LJ for exposing me to folks who were just different enough from me to keep it interesting. These days I count on the local rock gym and mom communities to get exposure to people that I share some experiences with, but may be super different on others.
veronica_rich
Jun. 8th, 2017 06:00 pm (UTC)
It's a great time to be asexual and aromantic!
ryl
Jun. 8th, 2017 07:22 pm (UTC)
Hear hear!
dmousey
Jun. 10th, 2017 12:29 am (UTC)
I would think LJI would fall into the category of people meeting and being changed by it. I know by watching my daughter tehunforgiveables and n3mn3m form such a strong bond.

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