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Green Room - Week 24 - Day 3

The topic post is over at: http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/1030779.html

and the Work Room to hash things out in is http://therealljidol.livejournal.com/1030984.html

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An offhand comment was made, that stuck in my brain and got me thinking about how life has unfolded for me. It was a lighthearted reference to how I have "troubled teeth". Which, I do.

I messed them up.

Maybe this will be useful to someone.

You know those important life lessons you learn from your parents? Or if you don't have that luxury, you pick them up along the way?

Most of those lessons are things I never ended up getting. It's not a "I just didn't pay attention". I just never got how important they were. One of those was proper care of your teeth.

I can remember 1 trip to the dentist after the age of 5 or so. I'll be honest, I'm not sure if my Mom didn't feel like doing it or if my Step Dad was preventing her - or if maybe they just figured if I said I didn't want to go (because what kid really wants to go to the dentist?) then they wouldn't make me.

There was no "remember to brush" or anything else. I'm not saying I didn't do it. But I didn't do it as much as I should have...

During my teens to early 20s I developed a bad habit... the way some kids take to drugs, alcohol and cigarettes, I took to soda. I was definitely an addict - with none of the self-care that could have at least held it a little at bay.

Add to this the "fun fact" of something else I never learned how to do - swallow pills. So I chew them. Yes, you read that correctly. I never figured out the trick - or the tricks I tried didn't work. I've gotten better, but it's still something I struggle with.

None of these things are good for your teeth, and all of them, past a certain age, are my own fault. My Mom always gets annoyed when I say I "raised myself" but there is a lot of truth in that, and I didn't do a great job of it.

So now I suffer for it, and try to undo the damage I caused that has set in motion this game of dominos where I try to stay one step ahead. Honestly, they aren't as bad as they *could have* been. I stopped drinking soda altogether and my self care has been fairly high for awhile now. But the damage was done, and the price is being paid.

So I guess the lesson is - take care of yourselves. Even if it seems "too late" to make a difference, it can still make things a little better. That, and there is a price to actions, or inactions. Sometimes they come years later, but the pain, it catches up to you.

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halfshellvenus
Jul. 14th, 2017 06:03 am (UTC)
I'm sure sorry that comment led to weighing you down. I know your teeth have caused problems for you for years, and I keep thinking they'll settle down and behave, but it looks as if they aren't ready for that yet.

Soon, I hope.
clauderainsrm
Jul. 14th, 2017 12:03 pm (UTC)
No worries. I was thinking about it anyway. Because when you are in pain you tend to sit around and go "How did this happen? Oh yeah... damnit... um... ME!!!" :)

Well that and the mini season I've been talking about is going to have the usual $5 donation, which will be going to get some of this stuff done. I've had backlash against that before, with people saying "You did this to yourself. WE shouldn't be paying for it!!" as if I wasn't offering them something for that fee. Believe me, I'm *working for it*. This is just my "other job". :)

Or rather, my employment is my "other job"!

I'll also be seeing about expanding my freelance writing to try to get some more cash. I spent my tax return on wedding related stuff, so I don't have what I had planned to use for dental this year. (and of course if I can put aside more cash, maybe I can help pay for an actual honeymoon at some point in the future!)
halfshellvenus
Jul. 16th, 2017 09:10 pm (UTC)
o_O Who are these mean people who make comments like that? $5 isn't going to break most people (and there's patronage if it is), but it's awfully helpful to you when it adds up. And yes, running Idol is an incredible amount of work.

Between this and the people who ragged on you for your self-Christmasing arrangements, I think you need a little nicer class of friends. :(

Fortunately, I think the wedding was less expensive than you might originally have thought, due to the venue and arrangements-- AND it was a really neat and unusual way to get married! But dental stuff is so expensive and unpredictable. My Dad's teeth were in such a state at age 17 that the Navy pulled them all and issued dentures. That was in the early 1940s, and I'm sure it was just easier for the Navy that way. But I don't think he'd particularly neglected them beforehand. Some people's teeth are less resilient than others', period, and the whole structural issue of what can go on in there... /o\

Let's not get into my niece with the floating bicuspid (and nephew with the unemerging adult front tooth), who had to have wire pulleys put in to drag the teeth down from the gum. Or my son's third front tooth. And this is on both sides of the family!
(Anonymous)
Jul. 14th, 2017 07:48 am (UTC)
"So I guess the lesson is - take care of yourselves" That's such an important lesson and I have been struggling to remind myself this for quite sometime now. I keep on giving up my priorities to make way for others and then mostly I am plain lazy. Have been reading a lot of self help books and watching videos.

Though the best thing I read lately is Dan Brown's Digital Fortress :) All I meant to say is "Thanks for the reminder"
eternal_ot
Jul. 14th, 2017 11:23 am (UTC)
Opps..I didn't realize I wasn't logged in. The above comment is mine.
xo_kizzy_xo
Jul. 14th, 2017 11:43 am (UTC)
But sometimes you don't/can't realize how you should've taken care of something until it's either too late or never realized it was there in the first place.

I mean, IF we had known X early on, then we could've done something. But sometimes you don't know until the bomb goes off, like a sudden heart attack in somebody with no previous cardiac-related conditions.

If I had known I'd truly inherited my maternal grandma's wonky feet I wouldn't have stayed in my industry for as long as I have. I now know why she suffered so much. She didn't have the means/way to repair them like I do. But because I do that have means/way, that doesn't mean that everything is fine and dandy -- it's a very long healing process which can be undone if I return to my *old* habits. That's what I've been struggling with.

Oh...and hello, GR!
xo_kizzy_xo
Jul. 14th, 2017 11:46 am (UTC)
OMG, chewingpills?!?!? Doesn't the bitterness of biting into them bother you?!?!?!?

:shudder:
clauderainsrm
Jul. 14th, 2017 12:07 pm (UTC)
You get used to them. Some are worse than others. Also, I take them with food (unless it says not to) , which reduces the taste of the food. :(

Worst pill EVER: Anaprox. NEVER chew one of those.

It does mean that any capsules (like my antibiotic) have to be opened onto a spoon and taken that way.
xo_kizzy_xo
Jul. 14th, 2017 08:37 pm (UTC)
:shudder:
:shudder:

Sometimes I'll accidentally bite down on one of my pills and the bitterness sends me through the roof. Chugging water afterward doesn't mitigate it. Unfortunately mine can't be taken with food.

:shudder:

Doxycycline is NASTY. You can hide it in the stinkiest, smelliest food imaginable and you can still detect it. Just your saliva touching its coating is enough to release it :shudder:
halfshellvenus
Jul. 16th, 2017 09:12 pm (UTC)
I forgot to follow-up on this part. You might want to look up "tongue-thrusting" and see whether there are exercises available on the Internet to work your way out of that. My husband's side of the family has that, and our daughter couldn't swallow pill at all until she had "tongue-training" to overcome that.
bleodswean
Jul. 14th, 2017 03:33 pm (UTC)
Just to play devil's advocate with you a bit, G. I, too, have serious dental issues and the exact opposite story. My parents were over-zealous with dental care, hygiene and preventative action. By the time I was out on my own, I had spent more hours in dental chairs than I care to remember without shuddering. All of my molars had been filled with HUGE amalgam fillings, teeth had been extracted, braces and headgear worn, retainers worn and lost and worn.

Soda and sugar were not part of my life.

By the time I entered my thirties, all of this dental care began to fail. Every single molar I have cracked from those fillings, resulting in root canals and crowns. The only teeth I have that haven't been negatively affected are those that were never drilled. Then all of my root canals failed. Money and pain and time....over and over throughout the years. I could go on but I think you get the point.

My husband has never been to a dentist once in his life (but he does brush daily) and has no cavities, no pain, no wonky gums.

Sometimes you get dealt a hand....

But yes, self-care is important! Of course it is. But it isn't always THE answer to preventing future illness, pain, decline. However, it certainly can make a body feel better in the present.
xo_kizzy_xo
Jul. 14th, 2017 08:43 pm (UTC)
Every single molar I have cracked from those fillings, resulting in root canals and crowns.

My amalgam fillings are starting to fail too. Thankfully I only have four, all molars. One of them is already cracked but so far it hasn't cracked enough :knocks wood: to get an emergency crown. I'm going to need one eventually, though.

I was very lucky. I didn't get my first cavity until I was in my late teens. I've never had any other issues. Both my parents had terrible teeth, so they were like yours and plied me with all the preventative care and tons of fluoride treatments. Also no soda and very little sugar.
beeker121
Jul. 14th, 2017 05:36 pm (UTC)
I still have problems swallowing pills, have to take any medication one item at a time with lots of water for each. Of course I take a daily pill now, so I have lots of practice (and that one's small) but it can still trip me up.
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